I CONFESS-I AM A RAPE VICTIM

A CONFESSION :: 

YES ! I HAVE BEEN RAPED- a confession by an Indian woman ( on behalf of all the Indian woman)

The caption ! yes! A fleeting majority of you must have smirked or shrugged when your retina perceived it. Lestways the word ‘rape’- the epitome of obscenity I presume?..did catch your rapt attention ..Did it not? OMG! WTFSHEESH—are our general reactions when we hear or read about traumatizing rape headlines making way into millions. The rotten lot may also comment dignantly –‘Oh! The girl , she was one character-less woman ! ‘Talk about compassion .

I am a staunch feminist and I do not hate men.Hating would be a thing too easy to do !! Oxymoronic much they say that’Rape flattens on the minds of men like maggots on a garbage dump’...Believing in a self thinking commodity I voiceferously disagree. Real men do not rape! Those gruesome, brutal lot who prey mercilessly on the bare flesh of the fairer sex ought to be categorized under a different tagline-BEASTS or MONSTERS perhaps! And I am making this point clear because at this juncture when matters of grave concern await our attention-a petty bicker between a man and a woman is the least that we can afford.

Every 20 minutes a girl is sexually harassed in India. The fumes of anger had not settled down after the Nirbhaya Delhi Gangrape Case and lo! Behold !-sprung up another ‘Guriya’ Rape case(only to name a few)..These heart-wrenching modes of torment would have been recklessly shoved  in the statistical records if not for the death-ly apparatus-rods, candles and bottle bits  used! Such is the extent to which the girl child is subjected to injustice in our nation!

Being a woman (now) I honestly fell caged, captivated and imprisoned in my own body. 64 years of Independence and down the lane ‘fear’ in every form is what the Indian woman has acquired.It is time-HIGH TIME! That I (on behalf of every Indian woman) confess to the world(dominated by the masculine) that I too am a rape victim and I get raped every single day....and I am afraid that this cycle will perpetuate until I breathe my very last.

‘Rape embodies sexuality as the culture defines it’- Let us now give rape a broader spectrum and accepts with humility that we are all victims . Common! We are the second most populous nation in the world..Every 6^th person in the world is an Indian-Talk about birth control..LOL!—we sure can appeal to alter one meaning of the Thesaurus!

Eve-teasing! Getting teased has now become a part and parcel of life for me. No! I am not a coward but how do you expect me to deal and fight back with more than 10 pigs in a single day? Sometimes harsh verbal comments tend to scar my dignity but then I console myself saying’Koi nahi hota hain ( It happens).. Is it actually supposed to happen?..Am I born just to listen to these remarks I know nothing about?

Many a times in a crowded place I find a hand struggling upto my breast or my butt without nobody witnessing it. The body touched was mine and I felt it , the guilt remains in my heart. Meekly my wounded heart whisphers a question to my conscience-‘Why are you ashamed? Shouldn’t they be ashamed who took undue advantage of your innocence?...I do not have an answer...

I walk across the street and get brutally assaulted-this time visually! Their eyes had a feast-Thanks to the tit buts of my naked flesh from here and there (wear a half sleeve Tee-your arms will serve the purpose of a buffet in India).However I try to give a stern look of disapproval-works sometimes! But mostly I am compelled to give up and look down at the ground.

Every time I travel through auto rikshaws-I catch the perverted drivers adjusting their mirrors to again catch a glimpse of my uncovered skin. Lecherous! They are!—Let alone the uncertainty of reaching my destination!

When you get raped you are sexually harassed and abused unlawfully without your permission and ultimately when the cannibals have quenched the thirst of their lust  you are dumped nude in some gutter !You loose your self esteem completely!That is the ultimate outcome!—The remarks, touches, comments, experiences mentioned above if cumulated and accurately mixed in proportion will amount to a 100 gangrapes!

So? What do we do now?-Adopt the lgal procedure and lodge an F.i.r ?Trust me  - the fat policeman with a moustache will laugh out loud at your face! Mind you ‘Justice for women does not exist in the legal system of India’. In our country Rape is the only crime where the victim becomes the accused and in reality it is she who must prove her good reputation, mental soundness, impeccable purity and sanctity! Truth is bitter.

Next? Protests!!! Revolutions!!Speaking for our undermined rights?? Hell no! You will be ‘lathi-charged’ anyways and if you are a girl the police man will not hesitate to slap you so hard that your ear will start to bleed (with reference to delhi guriya rape protests) and Lo! I am still fantasizing about justice!As of now the next time somebody asks you in a rapid fire round *ever sexually assaulted?*-Promptly reply-Yes! Obviously-I live in India you see*

TO ALL YOU MEN!

TO ALL YOU WOMEN !

An attempt to revamp my nation (L-RON Oraganization)member-Deepsikha ! 
mermaid_lady@rocketmail.com

------------------------------------------------------------------------------give your voice for a safer nation for the Indian woman!

THAT LADY ON THE STREET!

The sun shines to the best of its ability thus filling the prevailing atmosphere with mirth and gaiety. The city (Siliguri) of West Bengal yet again bustles up with the din of its noisy humdrum. The busy traffic single-mindedly whizzes past, the crowd runs a rat race towards something or nothing at all! Yet to utter dismay not one soul cares to halt, sensitize, feel and ponder about the lady who sits there all day and all night over the heap of stones staring at some distant vacant point.

Her attire and appearance would frighten you. She is donned with a considerable amount of criss-cross of wrinkles across her pallor. Her unkempt, grey keratin sways wildly in the strong breeze. If examined closely on can sight the colony of ‘scar copies scabies’ (lice) running helter-skelter over her forehead. Multiple layers of dirt and filth over her face-‘Does she even recall her original skin color?’-one can wonder! Round red pieces of glassware whish adorn her meek wrist jingle as she claps her hand at the sight of a school bus. ‘Could she have been educated in her past?’. The sacred-bangles! Are a clue that she might have been married and happy –once upon a good time !. She gets up, her torn and tattered attire showacases ‘unwilling obscenity’. As she tries to walk in vain , she is compelled to sit down again with a jerk, agonising in withering pain as she keeps her hand over her genital area. Sigh ! What could have been the cause the ‘excruciating’ pain?- A mere infection that could amount to a serious STD if not treated? Or a brutal/ many brutal sexual abuses that follow and haunt her every single night as she sits over her heap of stones unguarded and unprotected, her bare flesh serving as a prey to the vicious drooling wolves who cannot take charge of their libido and lust.

This was but – a plight of a single ‘mentally-ill, destitute woman who dwells under the night sky in a shady Indian street (Of Siliguri-West Bengal).Statistics show the possibility of more than 1,50,000 such women flourishing in the nooks and corners of our ‘indifferent’ nation.

About the lady mentioned above-flying and jocular rumours have it that some drunkards put over her face a mask of some Bollywood actor (because they were disgusted of her filthy face) and gangraped her!! When this true/untrue (nobody bothered to find out) news reached the people- a striking majority ‘laughed out loud’at the innovative idea of the bollywood mask! Has humanity lost all its essence? With the given factual description I attempt to spread awareness  about the deplorable and sporadic conditions of our nation (dipped in mordernization) among the public comprising of ‘you’ and ‘me’. Also, you may call it a request, reminder of duty or label me as a’harbinger’ of unwanted trouble but as a responsible youth of the nation I (On behalf of my organization L-RON. ) humbly put forward a pleato the local governing bodies and functioning NGOs to kindly look into this grave matter and take necessary steps for the rehabitiliation of the ‘mentally retarted-sexually abused-women-of Indian streets’.

·         Nationwide there are only 37 state run mental hospitals.

·         There are 3500 registered psychiatrists. (i.e. 3 per million)

·         Needed accommodation in rehabs (as concerned) is 1,00,000-available seats are 2000.

·         Currently 4 half way shelter homes are sanctioned by the Government-built none!

Mind baffling! Flabbergasting!—We know it but now it is not the time to lament over the spilt milk. It is ‘high time’ to bring about a necessary change in the way the things are functioning in our nation.

 So the next time you see a ‘lati’ (i.e. a mentally unfit person in the local dialect) instead of “ewwwww-ing” and passing lewd remarks, for a change let compassion overpower your soul. Feel her pain, imagine the horrid conditions through which she must have battled, try to look for the “lady” in her and when you have accomplished this strenuous task waste no time in spreading awareness about her wretched conditions( that is the most you can do at your level) so that the people in power exercise their powers for the welfare of these”children of a lesser god”

As Putlibai (father of Mohan Das Karamchand Gandhi once said”If in your lifetime you succed in saving or improving a single person’s life your life is a success).

 PS: The lady is mentally unsound so it was a difficult task to capture her in a film ( Kindly excuse the quality )

DELHI GANGRAPE:

NOT THE STARS NOR THE MOON,,,,,,
AT THIS HORRIFYING JUNCTURE WE DEMAND FOR A CAPITAL PUNISHMENT!
BUT HEY DEATH WOULD BE A LUXURY PUNISHMENT FOR THOSE WHO BURTUALLY TOOK PLEASURE OF THE POOR GIRL'S FLESH IN EVERY WAY THEY COULD!
7 YEARS IMPRISONMENT? AND WHAT WILL THEY DO IN JAIL..THRIVE ON THE MONEY WHICH WE PAID IN THE FORM OF TAX. ARE WE EXPELLING OUT MONEY IN ORDER TO RENDER VIP TREATMENT TO THE RAPISTS?..
A BOY OF OUR AGE COMMENTED* BAHOT ACCHA HUWA** RECENTLY REGARDING THE RAPE CASE. WE CONDUCTED A STING OPERATION WITH MUCH EFFORTS AND EXPOSED HIM///JUST THE FOLLOWING DAY MR. PRANAB MUKJHERJEE'S GREAT SON DARED TO COMMENT*GIRLS GET DENTED AND PAINTED...AND COMPLAIN THAT THEY GET RAPED..?*..
WHERE ARE WE HEADING TO?.........IS THE END OF THE WORLD FOR GIRLS?....
IS THEIR NO SOLUTION TO THESE INCREASING TORTURES?......WILL WE FOREVER BE HELPLESS???

NO......!!!
WHEN ALL THE GODS FAILED AND WERE RENDERED POWERLESS -- IT WAS THEN THAT GODDESS DURGA CAME INTO THE FOREFRONT! ITS HIGH TIME FOLKS...PLEASE I BEG OF YOU PLEASE STOP BEING MERE SPECTATORS...RAISE YOUR VOICE....SPREAD THE WORD...
BECAUSE AT THIS MOMENT...EVERY STEP (SMALL OR BIG) TAKEN BY YOU IS GOING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE.

DEMAND::: THE MALE COPULATORY ORGAN OF THE RAPISTS SHOULD BE CHOPPED OFFF PUBLICLY...!!!!!!!!!.........IS THAT MUCH WE ARE ASKING???
 !!!

Back to my destiny

Hey readers!
.....Sigh!.....I will be away for 5 long months....or maybe more.. until I finish with my board exams and get done with my college admissions.Day after I  will be leaving for Rajasthan...no not for more field work but to complete my education and propel my dreams to yet another level.!... I will be back soon with more posts, more updates and next year will do something substantial...maybe start a weekly journal or something. We will chalk it out later. lest ways, if you get any spicy and perky story pertaining to our nation-particularly women mail me right away.

mermaid_lady@rocketmail.com

Take care guys and girls.
......Btw.... I love it when when the warm desert wind brushes past my bare face. However this time it is going to be cold, some -3 degrees.....chilly eh!...The *by road* journey from Delhi to Pilani. is so rural, arid,barren and yet it mesmerises me each time I trace that pathway....I should consider a regression therapy soon (serious)....................
 Proud to be a Femocrat <3 xoxox

JMD! and yes We have come way far from * Homo Habilis and neanderthal man......we are homo sapiens..so Be a true human <3( haha Yes I like Salman Khan)

Get your COBRA!

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HAHA! Don't take me wrong I am not endorsing the product.....I am just sharing its benefits with you...because I feel that every girl should have this in her purse... It shall serve as her savior messiah redeemer and friend..! One spray and it leaves the latter blind for 48 hours, that too with a burning sensation. However mind you, if you spray it without any reason you can be jailed for 6 months .Carry you safety along :) Get your bottle of COBRA Spar  ASAP^^

The aftermath of rape.

This is a post to pick with the legal system of India which brutally mal-treats women as secondary citizens and denies the protection and respect which a lady needs allt hrough her life.Let us probe deeper into an issue which is VERY common in India...RAPES!.....How many times do find yourself gasping with horror and disbelief when every morning your eyes perceive the news girls being physically harrased ???
  
ACCORDING TO NCRB (Statistics for the year 2010)
*16373 women were raped during the year.
*45 women were raped everyday.
*44098 cases of sexual harrasment was reported during the year.
*121 women were sexually harrased everyday.
*1 woman is sexually harrased in every 12 minutes......

And we all are well accquainted with the fact the the rates are always double that what is showcasted. So now my dear friends you can well our plight!....Nevertheless here we are to calculate the AFTERMATH of rape.!...For this it is mandatory that you are familiar with the "2 finger test"-- A test so brutal and rash that it can be held at par with rape itself.

:::::::::  In India the two finger test is done to determine the virginity of a woman after she is raped. It involves the doctor inserting fingers in a rape victim's vagina to test its "laxity" and decide if she is habituated to sex.Defense lawyers often use this evidence to discredit the testimony of unmarried rape victims, who are then dismissed as *loose women*.! This test is based on the principle that the hymen sheath or the virgin knot is the sol indicator of virginity. .... At this juncture I am perplexed so as whether I should blush with emabarrasment or weep with shock at the ignorance level of our nation. Even a student who has studied biology until 10th standard can firmly affirm that the hymen sheath can be ruptured during streneous physical activities like dancing, horse riding, acobatics etc and it is certainly not the viable test for virginity.

Supreme Court of India has ruled that the results of a ‘finger test’ cannot be used against a woman, and that a rape survivor’s ‘habituation to sexual intercourse’ is immaterial, this ‘unscientific, inhuman and degrading’ test is still widely used in India.........Let me give you some real life instances of the poor ladies ( adapted from Femina)

Lily*, a 20-year-old graduate student from Manipur, was raped by an unidentified man in Delhi. The shell-shocked young woman shivers violently, as she describes the crime. But the ordeal, she says, didn’t end there. A few hours after she was raped, she had to undergo a medical examination, which she says, was “as awful as the rape itself” as it involved finger penetration of her anus. She talks about the torture post the traumatic rape.

“A few months ago, I was raped on the way home from work. I didn’t know the man. My family and a police team took me to Safdarjung Hospital, Delhi, for a medical examination. During the medical examination, the lady doctor inserted fingers into my anus and took vaginal swipes too. I was bleeding; I was in extreme pain and crying.”

“I had been raped after being thrown into a thorny bush and there were thorns embedded all over my body. Later, at the police station, Sector 23 Dwarka, my sister-in-law slowly extracted several thorns from the soles of my feet and my body, and clumps of hair from my head that the rapist had pulled out. I was beaten black and blue by him and couldn’t move my neck at all. He hit me hard several times on my head and face, but none of my injuries were examined.”

“Instead, I had to give my statement countless times to the police and to the doctor. The doctor refused to hand over the medical report to the police saying that until an FIR was lodged, he couldn’t do it. There was some confusion over the area jurisdiction as well. Then we drove to the site of the incident on an extremely foggy night and finally, after hours, managed to locate the spot. After we found evidence and my mobile phone, which the man had snatched and flung, the police report was finally lodged. We went to the hospital after that to get the medico-legal certificate. My family had to get private medical treatment for my injuries and now they are taking me to a counsellor at St Stephen’s hospital.”

—Lily *, 20, Delhi

*NAMES CHANGED ON REQUEST

A victim's friend expressed her misery:: (pertaining to 2 finger test)
" A nurse, Radhika and I were present int he room. The nurse asked Radhika to remove her salwar and sleep on the examination table.The nurse spread the girl's legs and called the doctor in. Two doctors were present during the examination (both male). The samples were collected by a doctor who was wearing gloves. He examined the vulva and took the vulval swab. Then he spread the labia to examine the external opening of the vagina. He found fresh tears and asked the other doctor to note them. He then inserted his two fingers inside he vaginal opening and noted that the two fingers were going in easily. The girl twitched in pain. He wiped his hands on a few slides possibly to make a smear. No other examination was done on her body even though she had injuries all over."
 Sigh!...........


Well.........I just wanted you to know that living as a girl aint easy in this nasty world of machos out there...
 but:::
 WOMEN ARE LIKE ANGELS AND EVEN WHEN SOMEONE BREAKS THEIR WINGS THEY CONTINUE TO FLY---------- ON BROOMSTICKS!.......and oh yes.....we will fly...we will soar on the sky most high :)....We just have to be bold, brave and united AND THERE IS ONLY ONE REQUEST i PUT FORWARD TO YOU....STOP BEING A MERE SPECTATOR...YOU CAN DO MUCH MORE THAN SIMPLE PROVIDING YOUR EYES WITH A FEAST.

A dream so sinful?

   

  Fourteen years ago when the lady gave her first cry....Little did she know that she was born in bondages, handcuffed and stringed n the yarn of the dictatorship of the elderly and the powerful--The Talibs..!...She was a rare gem who chose to fight for her right in her own gentle way i.e by scraping a pen on a soft piece paper , she wrote about the numermous atrocities inflicted on to her and the thousands of other girls of her age.....she refused to keep mum...Was that the biggest mistake of her life?....A blunder so big that even now as you are reading this she is fighting for her life.....She was blogger just like you and me....A young journalist who used to write for BBC Urdu!..She had a dream- A dream to see educated and independant Afghani women, Was it a dream so sinful?....
    One grim day as she sat chatting merrily in her school bus, the life changed Drastically....She was shot, two bullets in her head...Only because she had dreamt a dream, and was working in her own little way to realize that dream, she a tiny woman working for the cause of a woman....The Talibs said that the massacre was a lesson to every Afghani girl who dared to dream of education and secularism!..Hinna Khan, another girl from Afghanistan has very recently received a threat from the "men".....and the day is not long when we shall be praying for her speedy recovery too...!..
    So what did you decide?....To shun the voice of your conscience and kepp mum.....turn a deaf ear...be cause you fear that one fine day even you will be shot?.....NO!.....It is high time that women and girls, you and me realized that NOBODY GIVES YOU POWER YOU JUST TAKE IT......The Malala story shares an eerie resemblance with Annie Frank ...Then it was Annie, now it Malala....Then it was Hitler, now its the talibs...Then it was a diary....Now its her blog....Then it was leukemia....this time its her sex-the feminine gender!

 

The prime suspect !

DO OFFER YOUR PRAYERS FOR HER SPEEDY RECOVERY......I WOULD BE OBLIGED...


AMEN!